Releasing Expectations: The True Path of Love and Compassion
They say ‘the road to hell is paved with good intentions’ yet I would offer that it’s paved with expectations.
February is the second month of the year and also happens to be a 2 energy month in 2025 (2+2+0+2+5=11 and 1+1=2), giving us a double dose of the 2. Because we get to that 2 by reducing the 11 coupled with the 9 energy of the year, February calls us into a spiritual leadership role reflected by our ever increasing higher consciousness and self-mastery.
This is the perfect time to discuss the aspect of the 9 that encompasses the lower expressions of expectations, disappointment, control, and abandonment and how that plays with this double 2 energy.
The 2 sits on the emotional plane and with a double influence, a lot of feelings will rise up this month, particularly around these themes. Anger is likely to be the predominant emotion and when it arises, we need to check in with our Soul and ask, “What am I really angry about here?” because it is almost never the thing that triggered us.
We will be going through a cleansing of old wounding around the main aforementioned themes.
And with this, the 11/2 combo brings us to a point of making decisions.
Are we going to choose to continue to experience the lower expressions of the 9 or are we going to allow the transformation of old habits and relationship patterns to be reborn into peace, flow, acceptance, love, and compassion?
The energy this month is set to support us in transmuting these stagnant energies and behaviors by providing us with lots of opportunities through our interactions with others to have them mirrored back to us (the 2 and 9 both act like mirrors.)
When we feel triggered by someone, we need to stop and ask ourselves, “What are they mirroring back to me that I dislike in myself?”
If you’re willing to ask the question, you will be shown the answer. Then you get to decide what you want to do with that information. Perhaps you will seek help from a healer who you resonate with for additional support in transmuting the trigger. Maybe you already have tools for doing this. If you’ve ever taken group coaching with me in the past, this is the perfect time to dust off your notes and use your tools!
Years ago when I was coaching a dear client, we spoke a lot about expectations. Through our coaching sessions, she discovered her disappointment and feelings of abandonment were rooted in unmet expectations.
But here was the kicker: After deep introspection, she realized that she hadn’t even expressed her expectations to her partner - ever. And then she was angry and hurt when those unexpressed expectations weren’t met!
Upon further examination, she discovered that these were expectations based on unmet needs from childhood.
And after going even deeper, she learned that it wasn’t even fair for her to expect her partner to provide these things for her now that she was an adult. She could easily give herself the things she needed and support her inner child on her own.
At this point, she could have beat herself up for creating drama and discord in her relationship by having these unrealistic expectations. But instead, I gently guided her to forgiveness, self-love, and compassion.
We don’t know what we don’t know. And when we do know, we get to accept where we’ve been and decide to make changes going forward. Self-mastery isn’t about getting it all ‘right’ the first time. It’s about choosing to be self-aware, forgive, take responsibility, and then course correct where needed.
This process allowed her to transform her relationship from one of parent-child to one of partner-partner, and it made a huge difference in the way they both interacted with each other and felt in their relationship. They ended up getting married and last I heard, were very happy together.
So practice self-mastery this month as we move through the final couple of weeks of our collective Mercury season (awareness) and transition into our collective Venus season (feelings and relationships.) We are being given the opportunities for exceptional physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual growth this month.
Creating more conscious relationships is not about what we can get from each other. It’s about what we bring to the table to merge and rise in love and compassion together. This is a prevalent theme of February’s energy.
Embrace the growth and transformation February has on offer- you can do this!
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