Separation, Divorce, and the Universal Law of Resonance
As an Astro-Numerologist, there's one question I get asked with greater and greater frequency due to the annual energies and pending eclipse season, and I heard it again this past weekend while speaking at a local women's luncheon:
Q. Should I leave my partner?
While I never advise someone to leave or stay in a relationship, with the exception being if they are being physically abused, the next morning, boom, I was hit with a very strong, clear channeled response that might surprise you. Ready? Read on!
A. If this is your question, we ask you to consider that this is not the question that will lead you to the answer you truly seek. The answer has nothing to do with the other person - it has to do with yourself. Why are you unhappy in the relationship? Are you taking care of yourself? Are you taking responsibility for meeting your own needs? Are you happy with yourself? Are you living your purpose?
When you're living on purpose, any relationship that's out of alignment is going to naturally fall away. Most of your relationships will by default be more aligned, happy, and fulfilling when you are more aligned and happy with who you are and what you are creating. And when we shift our focus from what's wrong with the relationship and what's wrong with the other person and on to What am I creating today? What do I want to contribute to the world? What lights me up? - these are relationship changers.
There are times when a relationship is just not aligned and it's vying for your attention to be released, nagging at you repeatedly through an inner knowing. And that could be happening right now because of the recent Aquarian Full Blue Super Moon. It's highly likely there are relationships leaving your experience or that of someone you know, and it could be a significant other. And it is possible to see the likelihood of a separation or divorce in a person’s birth, 7-year, or annual Egyptian Numerology chart. However, it’s important to understand that the chart indicates a probability of a relationship change or ending and while sometimes it is quite clear what relationship is involved, it’s not always. It also depends on the conscious awareness of both individuals - will they choose to change the dynamic of the relationship together or walk away? And what is in the best and highest good for all involved?
When you shift the focus onto what you want vs what you don’t, the choice of whether or not to leave is so much clearer and easier to make, especially when you're aligned with your Soul purpose and actively living it. When you are aligned with who you are, when you know what your top 3 values are, when you know what you're focused on creating, you'll know if that relationship is aligned. You'll feel it, you'll see it - it will be so clear.
But when we aren't doing enough of the inner work we tend to focus on what feels wrong outside of us or what we think is wrong outside of us, trying to create something to blame for why we don't feel good. And the truth is, you'll never feel good in any relationship unless you're focused on yourself first and your own personal development.
I have seen - and this is my own personal experience as well - intimate relationships, whether it's with a parent, child, significant other, sibling, best friend, etc - any person you spend a lot of time with - I have seen those relationships shift dramatically without any counseling for the couple or people involved - there's no inner work done or awareness on the other person's part - it all happens through one person, working on themselves, shifting their focus, shifting their attitude, removing blame, choosing to step out of drama.
THIS is what changes relationships.
This is what changes your experience of relationships.
If you want your relationships to change, if you want to start attracting new relationships to you or new experiences in existing relationships that feel good, that feel more positive, that feel more aligned - you must change yourself. And I don't mean that you do something codependent or do something the other person wants or what you think they want - that's not what I mean about changing yourself.
I mean quite the opposite. I mean you show up authentically, truthfully, as the person, soul, and being of light that you are in all your full brilliance and radiance. And when you do that, all of your relationships shift and clarity reigns. And you'll know if someone is toxic for you or not. You'll know because your vibrational frequency will raise from what it is now in whatever relationship you're questioning.
Your frequency will raise and the other person will have two choices:
Raise their frequency to match yours
Vibrate out of your vibrational sphere (aka go away)
And, it will make things very easy, very clear.
If you have someone in your life who you feel is unwilling to work on a relationship, it will become very clear when you shift your own energy whether or not they are really unwilling or willing because they will shift with you or they will shift out of the picture. This is the Universal Law of Resonance.
And I've seen this in my own relationship with my parents for instance. I had a very tenuous relationship with them for close to 20 years of my adult life. But when I started having my spiritual awakening and started doing the inner work, my parents didn’t change. I did.
And as a result our relationship together changed. I set new personal boundaries with them and I didn't even have to state the boundaries - I just practiced them for me. And they changed the way they related to me. They did not change the way they related to other people but they changed the way they related to me, and I changed the way I related to them as a result of my own personal inner work.
They chose to match me vibrationally where I was at. They chose to raise their vibrational frequency in their interactions with me so that they could continue a relationship with me. And all of this was unspoken and unconscious on their part. It was simple. I set the intention, I shifted my own energy, I saw the relationship for what I wanted, and I left the rest up to them and the Universe.
You cannot change somebody. You cannot force somebody to change. You cannot force somebody to work on a relationship. You cannot do that with any successful outcome.
They must be a vibrational match for your frequency. So if you're unhappy in your relationship, what vibrational frequency are you putting out? Are you aligned with your true self? Are you aligned with your true purpose? Are you living it? Because when you are, any question about a relationship will become very obvious.
The answer will be there.
And it will be simple.
And you will have the courage and confidence to do whatever is necessary once you have that clarity. Whether it's to stay and grow together or to leave or to accept that they're leaving you. Whatever transpires is exactly what is meant to transpire based on vibrational frequency match. This is the Law of Resonance at play.
© 2024 Kristen Valus